If you have never had to plan a funeral for someone you love with all your heart, you are very lucky. I had to do that twice, and neither time was easy. Even knowing that both men were in Heaven did not make it easier, because I missed both like crazy. One was my brother, and the other was my father. I helped my mom plan both funerals because it was too much for her to do on her own. The one part that brought me peace was looking at different monuments in Newark NJ a few weeks after we had their funerals.

Because it had this effect on my heart, my mom asked me if I could do both of them. It was just too much for her to bear. Since I knew both of them as well as I did, it was actually easy for me to pick out the headstones we ended up using for both of their gravesides. The one for my dad was super easy to pick out. Continue reading →